Why I’m Quitting Facebook

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DISCLAIMER #1 : So, i’m not saying this is a permanent decision. I may return to facebook one day. In fact, I can do that knowing that my details would not have been erased, because Facebook doesn’t actually “delete” your account. It just “deactivates” it, hoping you come crawling back one day.

DISCLAIMER #2: This is my decision. I’m neither saying you should or should not quit facebook yourself. I’m just saying why I’m going to deactivate my account. So if you decide to do the same, don’t blame me. 😛

Aafter much deliberation, I am going to deactivate my facebook account this Friday 28 May.

No, i’m not doing it because i want to have a Facebook free bank holiday weekend. I’m not doing it because i have an issue with their privacy policy. I’m not doing it because i don’t like Mark Zuckerberg and think he might be a seedy fellow. I’m also not quitting because i’m addicted to facebook. really.

So why am I quitting facebook?

This week’s sermon, I talked about refuge. Finding refuge in God. Letting him be my place of safety and of rest. Over the past year, God’s been trying to get my attention about how distant I’ve become from him.

My character, my personal flaws, my insecurities and weaknesses all still have a hold on me. And although I have toyed around with getting rid of them, or changing my character, I’ve never seriously, for a prolonged period of time, found refuge in God, and let him deal with those issues.

I turned 36 this year. I glimpsed ahead and wondered whether I’d still be full of the same character holes in my life when I turned 40. Which is only 4 years away. And it dawned on me, that unless I get serious about these things, I may never seriously begin the process of transformation that God so desperately wants to do in my life. In many ways, I’m settling for squatting outside the promised land, instead of finding refuge in God, and letting him resettle me properly.

Now, facebook isn’t the cause of my problems. In fact, I’m not even a heavy facebook user. But it is still something that is occupying mental space and physical time, that as my offering to God, I’m giving to Him instead. I cannot go to facebook as my place of refuge. It will never satisfy or fulfil. I’m asking God to speak to me in new ways, and challenge me in new ways as well.

There is currently a lot of complaints about Facebook and privacy rights. But for myself, Facebook is one of those things i’ve allowed to invade my private space with God. Because of that, if i hope to find refuge in God, it begins with saying goodbye to facebook.

Like i said, this may not be a permanent decision. But it will last until God says it’s okay to jump back in. It may be a weekend (doubtful) or it may be never. At any rate, I can’t hear God clearly until I clear the noise around my life.

Why am I posting this on the BCEC blog and my facebook wall? Because I realise that currently lots of people use facebook to ask me things, or drop me a message, or ask me for a lift. If you want to get in touch with me now, you’ll have to do it the old-fashioned way : Email. Or face to face. 🙂

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These were some thoughts about the eighteenth episode in our series on Joshua. You can find all the the messages as well as the worship at the BCEC Sermon Page or or listen to the sermon directly – Joshua 20.

8 Responses to "Why I’m Quitting Facebook"
  1. Witek says:

    Bert! I am all for Facebook quitting! I did not use the FB for 4 months and started to use again after MEC (50 new friends added).

    There is a pernament way to quit Facebook. Follow these steps:
    * change your name to something made up
    * remove all your photos
    * untag yourself
    * change the default (login) email to something random (ie set up a dummy email at gmail/yahoo/hotmail)
    * change your password to something strong (copy&paste) http://strongpasswordgenerator.com/
    * confirm changes and live Facebook free
    This way you can’t login to your account nor retrieve a password.

    Another way is to do the following:

    To delete a Facebook account, log in to the Facebook account, and then submit the “Delete My Account” at https://ssl.facebook.com/help/contact.php?show_form=delete_account.

    Your account has been deactivated from the site and will be permanently deleted within 14 days. If you log into your account within the next 14 days, your account will be reactivated and you will have the option to cancel your request.

    All the best Bert! Long live the email and personal human contact!

  2. Witek says:

    Although FB blocks mailinator.com, seems like this dummy email service is unblocked:

    http://www.dispostable.com/

  3. philip says:

    Facebook enables me to interact with many Christians around the world, we post many scripture that many unsaved friends and family will see on their walls. For some christians especially in Pakistan and muslim countries, facebook is a means of communication news about persecution etc. gather people for prayers etc If you use facebook to glorify God and to spread the gospel and make friends from all over the world who are into Christ – what is wrong with this???? Its wrong to use facebook if its not for Christ, for idle socialising, but as a tool to enable to pray, strenghten, thanks God and encourage and evangelise people.. Wheever you are, if Jesus comes along with you, its okay. If 100% of your time spent on facebook is to talk about Christ and encourages each other in the walk, should we cancel facebook.

  4. bert says:

    Hi Philip,

    Thanks for dropping by. I think it’s fantastic that you use facebook to bless God’s name, and to share the knowledge of His love with others, and share in fellowship through facebook. Facebook can be a powerful too for good.

    My decision to stop using facebook, was born more out of choosing for a time to ask and let God use and speak to me in a different way. A self-discipline as opposed to an outright ban on the use of facebook. A self imposed exile you might call it.

    I actually will probably be returning to facebook at some point. This time away was more for me to sort some things out with God.

    I agree with you, let’s use facebook for God and for good, not let facebook use us.

    many blessing,
    bert

  5. Witek says:

    Clicked “delete the account” today, after copying 208 pictures of me and 513 email addresses of my over 600 Facebook friends.

    • bert says:

      bold move witek. well done.
      i’m actually probably going to be returning to facebook sometime soon. i may start doing facebook “breaks” regularly once i’m back on.

  6. philip says:

    Hi Bert, Nice to hear from you. I be popping down to your church this sunday (mandarin service) I think for the baptism of the wife of my friend who has joined your church. Can’t miss this wonderful occasion as the angels and heaven are rejoicing at this! I am from Kitts Green Evangelical church. Could you tell whether there is a translator to English, as my mandarin is so so as cantonese is main language and my English Christian friend is coming along. Plus is it easy to park the car nearby.

    Blessings in Christ.

    Philip

  7. Witek says:

    @philip: parking is free on Sundays, it is not difficult to find the parking space – check routes on Google Maps

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